How to be a Genuine and Fun-Loving Person

1. Value and respect the fact that you are a totally unique individual, with your own destiny to fulfill. Believe in who you are, what you think and believe, your gifts and talents, and what you have to offer to those around you.
2. Refuse to give into negative feelings of anxiety, self doubt or insecurity. In fact, “fake it till you make it” is often good advice … So, ignore how you feel, and act the way you want to be. Choose to switch off the old tapes that keep on playing in your head, and try to visualize your goals and then push on and seek to reach them.
3. Don’t pay any attention to what others think about you. The most important judgment should be yours, and yours alone. If you live in constant fear of what others think about you, it will only hold you back from realizing your potential. Also, you’re not a clone of others as each of us is different. Don’t be afraid to be unique or to stand out against the crowd.
4. Accept that you have good points, and areas for growth. We’re all a mix of different qualities, and flaws, and traits. We all make mistakes – it’s what you do with them matters – so embrace the fact you’re human and won’t always get it right.
5. Also, develop a tough skin and don’t take insults personally. Look back and laugh – don’t cower – or criticize yourself. It won’t help if you’re sensitive or worried all the time. It’s better to forgive yourself, and then move on again.
6. Develop your ability to think creatively. Try out those new ideas, and choose to live outside the box.
7. Seek to enjoy this moment, and to live life in the present. Be grateful for the small things, and savor all you have.

Do you have all 7 in you or which ones do you need more work on?

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COMPLIMENTS

When was the last time you gave someone a sincere, honest compliment??? A simple, “I like your tie,” “You have a great family,” “You’re funny,” goes a far ways. Compliments, no matter how small, makes the world go round.

They do wonders for the receivers and the givers. It gives the receivers feelings of appreciation inside, smiles on their faces. For the givers, they’re learning sincerity; “it feels good to do good” is in their disposition. People know when you’re just giving a compliment to just give a compliment – and when you actually mean what you say. Being real to yourself and others is what people love, cherish and remember.

You are sick and tired of being lied to or people being fake, you have heard and seen it all your life. These people are talkers, not doers. So when you hear something or see someone who is real – it’s different – and leaves a lasting impression.

A real recognizes another real.

What was a compliment someone gave you that you still remember? When was the last time you received a compliment?

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COOKING

“The love of family and the admiration of friends is much more important than wealth and privilege.” Charles Kuralt

Cooking is an amazing art. All the countless flavors, colors and aromas make your senses come alive.

What does cooking three pounds of mussels, prepared with a creamy garlic sauce with white wine, served alongside crispy baguette bread – and shrimp prepared neatly in rows, topped with shredded cheese bring about?….Over eating and gaining five pounds because it’s delicious. More importantly, the meal brings people together – old and new friends, family, joy, conversations, memories, laughter and so much more (five kids more).

How often you forget the simple events in your life can be so nostalgic. Sometimes you are so busy – or so it seems – in your life, that you forget to enjoy eating at the dinner table together.

What are your favorite dishes you cook that brings everyone to the table???

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ALTRUISM

The quickest way to happiness is learning to be selfless. When you learn to give and not expect anything in return, you are true to yourself and others.

This video is a great example of walking the walk and not just talking the talk. The doers in this world set a great example, inspiration to most of us. What you do, no matter how small a gesture, other people see it. Like this video states: “It’s a good virus.”

You may think that you alone can’t change the world – but it’s your small, simple actions that create the tidal wave. You just have to find what it is that you believe in. Picture yourself skipping rocks, the ripple starts out small, but later it gets bigger and bigger. The same analogy goes for this gentleman’s journey, he started out small and now his story has affected many people and many more to come.

What gestures have you seen, lately, from others, that motivate you to perform selfless acts???

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RELIGION

What’s your religion? Is there one better than the other? Is there a GOD? Does it matter??? How you live your life is entirely up to you. Religion is how you treat others; love and kindness.

The hardest thing to alleviate from your life is being judgmental. If you live in a way where you see everyone as EQUALS – if there’s a heaven, you’re well on your way – if not, then you can still die happy; win-win.

Everyday you’re told or worry about how you should live – LIVE HOW YOU WANT TO LIVE – forget the rest.

Focus on all the good you already have inside.

 

GIVING UP

“Never give up, for that is just the place and time that the tide will turn.” Harriet Beecher Stowe

The easiest decision we can make in life. Breakfast of champions. So simple a caveman can do it. What you want to get out of life is what you are willing to put in.

Your mind is a lot stronger than you think. When you’re staring into the abyss, the only way out is to move forward. When you are in your deepest hours, this is when you truly start to understand yourself and what you are capable, made out of. The more you push in these critical moments the stronger you become – and the next time you stare into the abyss it comes natural,  you know how to respond; it becomes second nature. Accomplishing this state of mind is magical. You feel confident, invincible and all the doubts you had is now under your control. Learn to keep your mind in this state and your world will change in unfathomable ways.

Eat it up, chew it up, swallow it, take a number two with it and flush it, where it belongs.

KEEP YOUR HEAD UP.

TEACHING

“Education is the key to success in life, and teachers make a lasting impact in the lives of their students.” Solomon Ortiz

Teaching is such a great tool to enhance the world around us. Everyone has something to teach. Take for instance, teachers and professors. They show you how to expand your mind and bring about positive ways in how to think. I’m sure you have heard the best teachers teach you how to figure out things on your own because they understand that everyone learns differently. They answer questions with questions and answers your answers with questions. They show you what they know but it’s up to you to decipher the intellectual information given.

A great concept I came across in the book, HOW DO WE DECIDE, by Jonah Lehrer, shows us a different avenue towards teaching. Here is an excerpt from his book.

“Carol Dweck, a psychologist at Stanford, has spent decades demonstrating that one of the crucial ingredients of successful education is the ability to learn from mistakes…Unfortunately, children are often taught the exact opposite. Instead of praising kids for trying hard, teachers typically praise them for their innate intelligence (being smart)….Dweck has shown that this type of encouragement actually backfires, since it leads students to see mistakes as signs of stupidity and not as the building blocks of knowledge. The regrettable outcome is that kids never learn how to learn.

Unless you experience the unpleasant symptoms of being wrong, your brain will never revise its models. Before your neurons can succeed, they must repeatedly fail. There are no shortcuts for this painstaking process.”

COMMEND MISTAKES AND FAILURES.

FIGURE IT OUT.

 

MUSIC

“When you’re happy, you enjoy the music. When you’re sad, you understand the lyrics”.

Music is a wonderful art – it’s a window to your soul, creates emotions and most importantly it makes you feel. It moves your heart and soul. It makes you dance and moves your body. It connects you to the artist and the story being told. What it is not is plain noise.

When you learn to love music you learn to love the art of storytelling. For example, the song you chose to dance to at your wedding. You both chose that specific song because it means a great deal to the both of you, due to how you related to the meaning of the story.

So many different genres to choose from, it’s hard not to affect every soul; there’s something for everybody.

Music creates a lasting impression; memory.

PURPOSE

What makes your life meaningful? What makes you get up everyday? Why is that you live? Do you have an endless reason(s) as to why you breathe? Really take a moment to marinate on these questions because reflection brings about thinking, thinking brings out questions, questions lead to answers.

Life is not meant to be lived simply by going through the motions and walking aimlessly or getting through the day. Life is meant to be fulfilling and it should give you the feeling of actually being alive. You walk, talk, see, hear, taste and breathe with conviction as if your mind chose the clear, intended path and nothing can stray you from that course.

You’ve found your PURPOSE when everything makes sense.

 

WEALTH

“Wealth is measured by relationships, not money.” Quoc Huynh

When you think about the word WEALTH, what does it mean to you? For most, maybe it’s the state of being rich – monetarily – absolutely nothing wrong with that notion. Wealth gives you the freedom to participate in what you love doing in life. The million dollar question is……what do you LOVE doing? Then, ask yourself after you’ve traveled all the wonders of the world, bought yourself all the lavish, fancy gifts possible, wined and dined till you can’t anymore – how is having money, then, make you happy in life? The billion dollar answer – BUILD LASTING RELATIONSHIPS. Building lasting relationships gives you immense, priceless WEALTH; TRUE happiness, love, laughter, memories, and so much more. You achieve REAL WEALTH because it’s ever-lasting. Money doesn’t buy REALNESS.

The world is FILLED with great individuals, take all the good they have to offer and incorporate it into your own life.